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How to Pray for Your Adult Children – 8 Powerful Prayers

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A mother’s love never ends. A mother’s prayers for her adult children should not end either.

Her heart is like a kaleidoscope of emotions changing with every circumstance and stage of her children’s lives.

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Just as we pray for our children when they are born, we also need to pray for our adult children.

The first few years of being a mom are like basic training, where most days are rainbows and unicorns. Days filled with snuggles and love and laughter.

Then the teenage years hit. Your training as a mom has been kicked into high gear. If the first few years are basic training, then the teenage years are comparable to being a Navy Seal!

Needless to say, if you think you have a good prayer life going now, just wait until you have adult children.

This is when it is so important to build on the foundation of faith and prayers you have been working on all this time.

Prayers for your adult children – releasing your child to God

As moms, we are have spent our children’s entire lives working hard to protect them and teach them right from wrong.

We can become like momma bears when we even think our children are being threatened in any way.

Well, believe me, just as God has a plan for their lives, so does the enemy. He wants nothing more than to destroy our adult children.

It is at this time in their lives we must release them to God. After all, He is our Father, the only perfect parent ever, so we can trust our adult children to Him.

God knows better than we do how to protect our adult children. He knows better than we do how to use every single circumstance in their lives for their good.

Pray that God will help you to release your adult child into His care. God is good, and He only wants what is good for our adult children as well.

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Foundation of Faith

I was told I could never have kids. I have 5. I gave birth to all of them. Each child is an answered prayer.

The Bible has a beautiful story of faith in the life of Hannah. She, too, was faced with the possibility of never having children.

But Hannah prayed. When her rival made fun of her and made her cry, she prayed. When she was disappointed year after year, she prayed.

Hannah put all of her faith in God that He could perform a miracle in her life.

She trusted God to do what only God could do. And God was good!

Before Hannah ever had children, she had a strong faith in God. She believed that God could not only give her a child but that God would use that child.

Hannah’s foundation of faith prepared her to be a mom.

Just like Hannah dedicated Samuel to the Lord when he was born, the Bible tells us in Proverbs 22:6, “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” (KJV)

It is so important to start our children out learning about God and training them in His way.

But what if you did not do that? Maybe you weren’t saved yourself or didn’t realize the importance of it. There is still hope!

Our God is a redeemer! If you did not raise your children to know God for whatever reason, it is not too late.

Pray for God to forgive you and be the redeemer for your adult children.

It is God’s will for your adult children to be saved and to live for God so you can be assured that He hears your prayers.

God’s plan for their life

When our kids are born, we almost immediately start thinking about their lives and what they will become as adults.

We imagine doctors, lawyers, teachers, and other amazing things for them.

However, God has a plan for each and every person that is born. So, likewise, God has a plan for your child!

He knows every decision they will ever make and has already got a plan in place for that.

Jeremiah 1:5 “I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb . . .”

Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

God has a plan for our adult children. He knew them before we did! God loves our children even more than we do.

That is hard for me to imagine as a mom. But, I know how much I love my children and to think that God loves them even more than I do is very comforting.

Pray that your adult children will surrender to God’s will for their lives, and they will seek His wisdom.

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When they make wrong decisions

Have you ever been disappointed in your adult children? Maybe you disagree with the choices they have made in friends, lifestyle, job, spouse?

As a mom, it is so hard when you know your adult child is making a mistake, but they just won’t listen.

We all want to protect our kids. We want their lives to be easier, better, filled with more peace and happiness than what we have had.

If we have a strong foundation of faith, it is much easier to weather these storms.

Because of the storms of life, I have weathered that I know God can and will be with my adult children through their storms.

When our kids go through hard times and make poor decisions, it is hard on a mom’s heart.

When our adult children don’t have that foundation of faith to lean on, it makes it more challenging.

Now you have to trust God, like Hannah, to do what only God can do.

Pray our adult children’s hearts will be receptive to the convicting power of the Holy Spirit.

Pray that God will protect them from harm and the evil plans of the enemy.

Freedom from evil plans

It is during these times that we have to get into our ninja mom mode. We must get determined and intentional in our prayers.

I heard Priscilla Shrier talking about the enemy and how he works. She said it is one thing for the enemy to attack her, but when she knows he has been scheming against her kids, that is another ballgame.

You can rest assured, mom, that if the enemy has weapons formed against you, he certainly has weapons formed against your adult children.

We have prayed for these children. We have spent countless hours praying over them. We have loved, cried, and worried over these children.

When our adult children take a different path than how we have raised them and are now walking down a slippery slope, we must be ready to fight on their behalf in prayer.

I believe with all my heart that as long as God and I are in this together, then the very gates of hell cannot prevail against my adult children. No weapon formed against them will prosper.

James 5:16 says, “The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results.” (NLT)

When I am praying in faith and believing God to be God and do what only He can do, then I am aligning myself with His power.

The name of God is above all other names. He is King of kings, Lord of lords, our strong and mighty tower.

Now is the time for us to align our hearts with God’s and pray like we have never prayed before for our adult children.

We have all heard of Mothers Against Drunk Drivers, right? Well, I think we need to start a mom’s movement to get on our knees and pray for our adult children!

Moms must pray against the enemy and every evil plan he has for our adult children.

The Bible says that Jesus and the Holy Spirit intercede for us with the Father.

Now, if Jesus, the Holy Spirit, and a determined mom on her knees are all praying for our adult children, then the devil will flee!

Freedom from addiction

Sometimes there is family bondage of addiction. This can have terrible and long-lasting effects on our children.

Even if there is no family history of addiction, our adult children can make poor choices due to temptation or peer pressure.

Addiction can tear a family apart. It can leave them in financial ruin, destroy their marriage and hurt their relationships with family members and friends.

The enemy loves to use any weapon he can to destroy our adult children, and addiction is one way he destroys lives.

Matthew 26:41 says, “Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”

1 Corinthians 10:13 “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.”

We need to pray that our children of all ages will be protected from the temptation of drugs and alcohol.

If our children have already fallen prey to these addictions, then we need to pray fervently that God will deliver them from these addictions and that they will be redeemed and restored.

We need to pray that our adult children will have a desire to be delivered from these addictions. God will not force His ways on any of us and gives everyone free will.

Feeling loved and accepted

We all long to be loved and accepted, and our adult children are no exception.

Let’s face it, growing up, especially in the teenage years, was hard for us. I can’t imagine being a teenager now with social media.

Cyberbullying and social media make it that much easier to make you feel like you are not enough.

Even though you did everything you could to make your child feel loved and accepted when they were growing up, you don’t know everything they may have heard from others.

Also, events in their lives may have scared them more than we realize.

Since everyone is different, we need to pray our adult children will feel and believe in God’s love for them in the way they perceive the best.

John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son, that whosoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.”

Now that is love! We need to pray that our adult children will understand that as much as we love them, God loves them more.

Pray for your adult children that they will experience God’s love first. Second, we need to pray that our adult children will have a relationship with Him.

Our children may be adults now, but they still want to be accepted. So pray that God will give them close Christian friends and mentors who care about and accept them for who they are.

Having a sound mind

Thanks to social media and people being more open about their lives and struggles, mental illness does not have the stigma it once did.

We need to pray that our adult children will be protected from mental illness and have a sound mind.

Mom’s need to pray for our adult children to be free from the torment of the lies that the enemy whispers to them.

Mark 7:21-23 tells us, “From within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lewdness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness: all these evil things proceed from within, and defile the man.”

Since the enemy is always trying to get us to believe his lies, all evil and sin begin in the mind, then go to the heart.

Our adult children must take control of their minds, or the devil will.

In 2 Timothy 1:7, we are assured: “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”

Fear comes from the enemy. It is not of God. Fear causes us not to believe God, which opens the door to dangerous thinking.

Our adult children are being bombarded every single day with negativity and lies. Unfortunately, these lies can overtake our adult children’s thinking, and they begin to believe the lies.

We need to pray over our adult children that the enemy’s lies will be exposed and the truth of God’s love and word will penetrate their thinking and hearts.

Mom’s have power in prayer. God blessed us with these children. I believe God expects us to pray over our children from the time we find out about them through all of our days.

We see many people with bad attitudes, hateful, resentful, negative, tearing others down, narcissistic, and uncaring.

Pray, momma, pray for the love of God to penetrate the hearts of your adult children.

Pray for those lies of the enemy to be held up to the light of God’s truth and exposed.

Pray for the enemy’s strongholds on your adult children will be broken down and they will turn their hearts and minds to Christ and be saved and live for Him.

Their hearts and minds

Just as we need to be on our knees pleading the blood of Jesus over our adult children, praying for protection, healing, deliverance, and leading our adult children into the lives that God has for them, we need to be praying for our hearts and minds as well.

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to focus on the faults of others?

It instantly makes us feel better about ourselves. We don’t have to look at the mess in the corners of our hearts and minds when we focus on the mess in someone else’s life.

Pray for your heart and mind to be filled with the Holy Spirit.

Pray that God will lead you in His light and show you what you need to pray for your adult children.

Lean on His guidance and believe Him to lead you in your prayers.

When we are utterly dependent on God and surrendering to His will, there is absolutely nothing the enemy can do to stop us.

When you pray for your adult children, thank God for the work He has already done and for what He is doing now.

My experience has been that God never shows me the big picture. Instead, he grows my faith in Him when I trust Him.

When I pray and petition the Lord for something or on someone’s behalf, trust Him to work and depend on Him, then I see answers to my prayers.

It may only take a few minutes, which is awesome, or it may take years.

But I know, because the Bible says it is true, that when I pray according to His will, He not only hears my prayers, but He will give me the desires of my heart.

When our heart desires God’s will to be done, then we have the assurance that God hears our prayers.

God’s will is for our adult children to be saved, to live their lives in His power according to His will.

We know that God has a plan for our adult children, and it is for their good.

So pray, momma! When your adult children live for God, praise and thank Him, asking for protection, so they will continue.

When your children don’t know the Lord, pray for their salvation. It is not God’s will that anyone should perish but that every single person would be saved.

When your child is headed in the wrong direction, making bad decisions pray for God’s intervention and leadership to turn their lives around.

We know the enemy will attack our adult children in any area of their lives that he can destroy them and their witnesses.

Pray for freedom from addiction, and pray for your adult children to have a sound mind so that they can readily identify the enemy’s lies and not fall prey to his lies.

Finally, pray for yourself. Thank God for blessing you with these children and helping you to raise the children to adulthood.

Ask for God’s protection on you and your mind as well. The enemy will look for the way he can to get to you.

Put on your armor and pray, trusting God to answer your prayers regardless of how long it takes because God is faithful to His word!

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19 Comments

  1. This post resonates with my spirit! Such great praying points. We have two kids in college and daily we cover them in prayer. Pinned to share with our community. Stopping by from By His Grace Bloggers.

  2. I gave the power of the praying mother to my mom (adult child edition), I know that my mother prays for me and our house, while my children are growing and not yet adult, my oldest will be entering his pre-teens and my youngest two are entering school age. I pray for them all the time, for discernment, for a heart for God, for protection, for the ability to talk it out (talk about their emotions and what is bothering them). Praying for our children no matter the age is so important! Thank you for this, and plus you never know a mothers consistent prayers could save them in the long run of things.

  3. I have adult children and the fight is real! They are all wonderful people and I am so grateful for that but continue to pray for them as only a Mother can. Now, with grandchildren added to mix, there is even more to pray about! Great post!

    1. Absolutely! We now have two grandkids and I realize even more how much they need to be covered in prayer! You are welcome to join our Warrior Women Prayer Group!

  4. “We must release them to God”- this is so true! He knows them and loves them more than I do! I can’t tell you how many times I have prayed to God and told Him that I am laying my concern for them at His feet and leaving it there. My children have known that I have prayed for them through Moms In Touch, our small group Bible study, and daily prayers. One of my teenagers (at the time) begged me to stop praying for her to be caught if she was doing something she shouldn’t because it worked every time! 🙂 This was a great post! So encouraging!

    1. Yes ma’am. Definitely praying for you! You are welcome to join our Warrior Women Prayer Group on fb!

  5. As a Mom, it’s hard to release our children to God but as much as we love our children God loves them more we do. I have prayed for my children to come to know the Lord as their savior but it’s out of my hands. Numerous times I have prayed and left the issue at the feet us Jesus only to pick it back up. However, their salvation is out of my hands and I can only pray for them and give it to God with the hope he will draw himself to them. Great encouraging post my sweet friend.

    1. Praying for you sweet lady! I know how heavy this has been on your heart!

      1. What a strong, powerful post, Karen. We should never stop praying for our kids. I am thankful that mine were all saved when they were young. But they don’t all have a great relationship with the Lord as adults. As I pray, I know God loves them. As we did when we were younger, and even still, our Heavenly Father disciplined us when we go off course. Yes it’s hard to watch when that discipline is on our kids, but if it brings them closer, then it’s all worth it.

    2. I always say that parenting an adult is much harder than parenting at any other stage of life. As adults, they make their own choices. and it’s sometimes difficult to watch the results of those choices. I’m so thankful for the privilege of prayer. God knows so much more than we do and He sees the bigger plan. We’ve raised our children to have a relationship with the Lord, although I wish it was stronger. But they know who He is and what He expects. We just have to trust that they follow the leadership of the Holy Spirit and keep praying in all things. Great post!

  6. Karen – this post came at a perfect time for me. With girls in the ages between 12 and 25 the battle is fierce and ongoing. I don’t want to see any of them make the same mistakes I did but I do have to learn to trust God with them. He know’s what he is doing. He hear’s my prayers. I just need to love them and keep praying and keep trusting.

    1. Oh girl definitely praying for you! Satan desperately wants to destroy our families and uses our kids. I have a Warrior Women Prayer Group you are welcome to join! It’s for moms and grandma’s to pray for our kids! Anyone is welcome to join!

  7. Hello I am unable to see a link for the scripture cards for praying for adult children. Will you share please? Thank you

  8. Andrea Ellis says:

    I Didn’t know where to put my own salutation down at.
    But All 4 of My Children are grown& now im a Proud Grandmother (Nana) of 2. From 27-33 yrs are my Adult kids ages. 2boys& then 2girls.
    My Oldest Son i have spent my life on my knees for him. Tho i know ive failed him at times. Ive always tried to make up for. My son Aj has Adhd, Major Depression, ptsd& so on. As if that wasn’t enough at age 14 n a half he Became Brain Damaged. Died& came back n my arms& honestly, devils been trying to Kill My son since the moment he was being born.
    It was his Behavior part of his brain( of all places) that became like a jellyfish. Tho God Has Head his Head& Thru God , My Son & I together Overcame Soo much. I taught him how to Walk, Dress& feed& bath himself All Over again. I told him : I taught you once& I can do it again’. In 6 mos My Son was Able to Do Everything again like b4. My son was Saved Before his accident.Afterwards he asked me to help Write on His belt( from the hospital to help him walk w/o falling) To Write the date of accident& Say:’ This is the day God Saved My Life’ n it..
    Over the Yrs He got into Drugs& always got himself cleaned back up.( Yep on my knees til he did) Now My Mother& His Best Friend( my son n law) both passed away. (In 9mos of each other.)Almost 5mos after lossing My Mom, My Son Snapped!! He had gotten Back into drugs, devils spirits were Tormenting him& i was praying for him& With him. Stayed by his side, so he felt safe. Then 1 day we got n2 an argument. I lost it, it scared him& He Hit me.( Only once& Instantly took care of me) But then devil Filled his head With Major Lies& Faults memories. I had to make my son leave. Bc i Couldn’t trust him a wk afterwards. It was about 8mos afterwards b4 i heard Anything again from him. Then My Other son took him in (Alabama he moved him to from Houston) To get him off the streets. We live in Tulsa. After about 3/4 mos he Was flipping out, Only this time turnd himself in to the police& Now n jail next city from me.( chargers was minor, but left b4 he had finished his probation) Anyways, he’ll be their for a yr. I Prayed God Would help him& put him in a place he couldn’t hurt our family. 3 days layer he Puts himself in jail. Answered prayer n my books.
    But Only 1 yr& back on the Streets again. Ugh.
    I’m Needing a Major Miracle while his in jail, safe& Off of All Drugs.
    That he Gets the Real Help he Needs to Focus& be calm& so he can sleep n peace& Most Importantly: God Heals& delivers Him B4 He’s Released ( The ending or n Nov 1rst) 2021. Bc If Not, He Can be Dangerous now.If God Doesn’t Heal him. Bc of the Faults Beliefs .My Son Had a Nervous breakdown after my mom passed.Then when he calls me mos later, i had to tell him that His bff( my son n law& son at heart died at 26) It Hurt him Deeply. My son is now 33. Im Broken hearted, But Ready to get My Fight on Again for my son. As long as i hace breath n Me, I’ll fight for What the devil Stolen from My Son& Our Family. Will Anyone Be willing to Please Add Aj to yalls prayers?? Bc now that My Mom is gone, No 1 but me prayers for him. I Truly feel alone. I know Jesus still Loves My Son& Still with him. Even tho My Son has slipped to a darker side. Last time we spoke, devil was using him to Hurt me. Bc I Know My Son Loves me. We’ve Over came Soo much together.I Don’t listen to devils lies. He just wants me to Quit on My Son. I Cannot& Will Never do that.My own health im battling too. But With God, All things are possible. It has to be. Or my life has been n vain. I don’t believe that. Ive always Loved Our Savior. Always will.. Regardless of what happens.
    Bottom line.. Im scared for My Sons Life& More even for his Soul.
    Sorry so long.

  9. Find out if there is a Celebrate Recovery that meets in your area. It is a God based recovery group from addictions to depression to loss to anger. Any kind of recovery.
    The biggest thing you can do is pray that he is ready to listen to the stirrings of God In his heart. You have to release him to God which is very hard when you see your child destroying himself but releasing doesn’t mean giving up, it just means surrendering. God showed me that surrendering is like being in battle that you have fought and fought and done all you can do yet the enemy is still winning. Raising the white flag in our case, The Cross, is our only hope of survival. So surrendering saves you as well as your son. Pray Fervently every chance you can!

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