Have you ever felt like no matter what you do, you are just not enough? Like you don’t measure up. Even when you try your very best!
Sometimes it seems like no matter how much we do or how hard we try, it is never enough.
We feel like we are not good enough as a wife, mom, daughter, friend, employee, or whatever our role is.
Feeling like you are not enough as a mom?
I’ve felt that way plenty of times! When my three oldest kids were little, this cartoon they loved to watch was called Little Bear. I don’t even know if it’s still on, but that momma bear made me sometimes feel like a failure!
I know that sounds crazy, it was only a cartoon, but man, she was a great mom! She was so wise and never lost her temper. But, on the other hand, I made mistakes daily and did lose my temper, then felt like dirt.
Here’s the deal. I was the best mom I knew how to be at the time. This was before the internet and all the wealth of information we have at our fingertips.
Growing up, I was an only child, so I was doing the best I could. I have a feeling you are too.
As a matter of fact, I bet you read everything you can about being a better mom and a better wife. The internet is great for getting information and knowledge about these things.
It’s also a big fat liar! Think about it. We scroll through social media, comparing ourselves, our marriages, kids, homes, jobs, and vacation pictures to everyone we are “friends” with.
Let me fill you in on a bit of a secret, and please learn this as early in life as possible. Life is NOT a competition!! You are not in competition with anyone but yourself.
So you lost your temper over something stupid today. First, be sincere and apologize to your husband or kids and do it in a way so that they can see that even moms mess up, and it’s ok. Then, be a better version of yourself tomorrow!
Feeling like you are not enough? Then, take charge and do something for yourself.
When my kids were younger, I was under a LOT of stress there for a while plus, it seemed like I was pregnant or just had a baby for years, so I was always hormonal.
Anyway, I would tell my kids that they were good and I loved them more than anything, but mommy needed a time out for 10 minutes.
Then I would go into my room, shut the door, take a few deep breaths, and pray!
I found this worked great for me. It allowed me to deal with whatever was bothering me, and I didn’t take it out on my kids.
I told them it wasn’t their fault I was upset; I just needed a minute to think.
Feeling like you are not enough because of other people?
Do you ever feel like you aren’t “good enough” at anything? Then, someone comes along and pops your happy bubble when you are feeling good about yourself!
Maybe it isn’t with your kids, maybe your family is great, but it’s your job.
You show up every day, work hard and do your job.
No one ever has complaints, but they never seem to appreciate what you do.
Maybe you work your tail off, and someone else gets all the praise.
Or they treat you differently, and you don’t know why, but it makes you feel like you are somehow less.
Recently I had one of those days. Then I read a quote, and I wish I could remember where so I could read more, that said this . . . “Let the One who created you be the one who defines you.”
That one sentence changed my whole day! It’s so good I’m gonna share it again:
” Let the One who created you be the One who defines you.“
WOW!! I absolutely LOVE that!! The people I work with don’t define who I am.
Social media doesn’t define who I am. The mistakes I’ve made don’t define who I am!
When you feel like you are not enough – God knows you better than anyone
What and who defines who I am is God. He is the One who created me!
Jeremiah 1:5 says, “Before I formed you in your mother’s womb I knew you . . .”
Now God was talking to Jeremiah in this verse and telling him about calling him to be a prophet.
But the same verse holds true for us today as it did thousands of years ago for Jeremiah.
God formed us in the womb. He knew us then! He knows you now!
Luke 12:7 says, “And the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don’t be afraid . . .”
Did you catch that? Every single hair on your head is numbered, not counted. If they were all counted, it wouldn’t matter.
God could say, “Oh yeah, Karen, you have a million hairs on your head today. Yesterday you had a million and thirty-six.” But He doesn’t say that.
God knows which hair falls out or comes out when I brush it.
If God cares that much about me, and if He knew me before I was ever formed and born, then He is the only one I am concerned about telling me how much I am worth.
I refuse to let another human, who makes mistakes just like me, tell me I’m not good enough at anything.
I refuse to let another fake social media picture where everyone was fighting 2 seconds before the smiling faces showed up in my feed make me feel like I’m not a good wife or mom!
When you feel like you are not enough – your family
Do you love your husband? Do you still do the little things to let him know you love him and that he is important to you? If not, then why not?
Maybe you need to have a sit-down conversation about what’s going on in your marriage and how you feel.
Or maybe you just need to start doing those little things again.
What about your kids? Do you hug them every single day and tell them you love them?
Do you really listen when they tell you something or are you multitasking? I’ve been guilty too!
Sometimes I have to remind myself to just stop what I’m doing, look them in the eyes, shut my mouth and listen. Listen to every detail they want to share about their day.
I have to take a deep breath and remind myself of what’s really, I mean, REALLY important. I promise the dishes and laundry aren’t going anywhere.
Trust me, I’ve tried waiting it out, and they just stay there and invite even more dirty dishes and clothes to hang out with them.
As long as you are doing the best you can every day, that is honestly all you can do.
You make the best decisions you can for your family. You are honest and kind.
When you feel like you are not enough – Remember the enemy is real
You see, Satan wants us to be down. He wants us to think we are not worthy of anything.
If Satan can keep us down and out, we aren’t the best person we can be.
If Satan can make us think we aren’t good enough and don’t measure up, we won’t try.
My dear friend, I feel the pain and discouragement you are going through.
I’ve walked in those shoes and cried the tears of someone feeling like, “why bother? Nothing I do is good enough anyway.”
I’m here to tell you that you are worth far more than you realize! So tell Satan to leave you alone in the name of Jesus.
Then give God the praise He deserves for loving you and thank Him for all of His goodness.
When you feel like you are not enough – God is bigger!
If you do this whenever you feel unworthy, I promise it will make a difference.
When we open our hearts and minds to God, He pours out His love and presence on us.
“But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.” 1 Peter 2:9
Praying for you to realize that you are just the right person for the task God has called you to do.
Think about that for a moment. God called YOU for the task you have. He called YOU to be your husband’s wife. He called YOU to be the mom of your children.
Praying for you to realize that you, my dear friend, are ENOUGH!
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